She was listening to a pravachan of Sadhvi Ritambhara. She was describing this thing about Swabhava and Prabhava. Mother and Parenting the children creates it's influence on children almost upto the age of 12. What they get upto this age essentially becomes their swabhava (nature). Then comes the age of Prabhav (influence). After this age, the impact of what parents may say keeps on reducing, and the Prabhav keeps increasing. This is the time of conflict in the mind of the growing up teen and the youth. The youth can stay in conflict, but ulitmately the peace of the mind comes only when he can reconcile all the Prabhav in the life with the Swabhav, because that is his/her true-self. The further one goes from it, the more the grief. Some come back to swabhava, and some stay in the prabhava.
Interesting take. Isn't it.